Personality Disorders: Psychopath? Narcissistic Lover? (Sociopath, Mind Control, Borderline Personality, Psychopath, Narcissism) by Jeffery Dawson

Author:Jeffery Dawson [Dawson, Jeffery]
Language: eng
Format: azw3
Published: 2015-01-30T16:00:00+00:00

Chapter 7: The Trauma of Narcissistic and Psychopathic Abuse

Severing ties from a narcissist or psychopathic lover may be difficult, for a victim is made to believe that the downfall of the relationship is of their own making. They are manipulated into thinking that they were never enough, or that they failed to do their part.

How a Victim is changed by a Narcissistic Lover

Vulnerability

All along, a victim may believe that no human would purposefully harm them, or it is less likely that they will meet devastation at the hands of a treasured lover. It’s as if the narcissist comes along and opens your eyes to the fact that you are not immune to extreme emotional pain, especially the kind that comes from someone who once charmed you into falling deeply in love.

This assumption is what narcissists capitalize on. While you are busy feeding their ego while under their spell or influence, they loot your mental and emotional wellbeing. When they cause you pain either by extensive lying, manipulating choices, using you for their own personal gain, or any other forms of abuse, they leave you empty and scrambling to make sense out of what happened with the relationship.

That leaves the victim of a narcissistic lover extremely vulnerable after their relationship. They develop difficulty in trusting people, and even trusting themselves. They over think as to when things started to go wrong or what they might have done to trigger it, even when it is actually the fault of their narcissistic lover.

Irrationality

Everything in life is believed to have a logical explanation so people look for this logic. People’s actions and varied events seem to follow a predictable pattern, like how a lover constantly expresses affection towards you. When a narcissist and their peculiar behavior create a devastating impact on their victim’s life, it is as if he/she is a puzzle piece that does not fit.

As the victim tries to comprehend the trauma he/she experienced, the more the relationship and its end do not make sense. Narcissists behave in such a way that defies logic, in a way that we normally can’t. When going through narcissistic abuse, the victim’s rationality becomes a curse.

The victim cannot fathom why narcissists behave in their own destructive manner. They shift from being charming to cold and detached, from being endearing to manipulative. The lack of adequate understanding heightens the blow, causing the victim to seek unhealthy methods of coping through it. Victims are recorded to engage with excessive intake of alcohol, drugs, sex, and other irrational means of attempting to handle the trauma.

Loss of individuality

“Am I weak?” “Am I not worthy?” The victim will start to question everything about himself/herself after the relationship ends. Instead of growing as an individual, the affiliation with the narcissistic lover may have molded him/her into being extremely dependent to his/her abuser.

Life choices may have been always to satisfy the excessive demands of the narcissistic lover; this is why the victim may feel like he/she lost direction when the relationship died. It

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