Indigos:The Quiet Storm by Tappe Nancy & Altaras Kathy

Author:Tappe, Nancy & Altaras, Kathy [Tappe, Nancy]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Aquila Media Productions
Published: 2011-11-14T16:00:00+00:00

8. Raising Indigo Children, Being Indigo Parents

The following is a personal account from a Yellow (life color) father about his Indigo child, age six. “We had just moved into our brand new house, after a stressful six months waiting for it to be built. It was late February, still fairly chilly outside. At dinner one night, my wife was tired and bitchy after a day of unpacking and trying to get our two girls to finish fixing up their rooms. She started in on a tirade that threatened to disrupt the entire dinner, thus ending an already stressful day on a negative note. I thought I’d pitch in and do the firm parent thing. I looked at both girls sternly and said, ‘I’ve had enough. If you want to live with boxes, move into the garage. There are plenty of them out there.’ Our Indigo daughter left the table after hurrying through dinner. The other daughter sat silently at the table on the verge of tears through the whole meal. All of a sudden the Indigo appeared, her arms filled with stuffed animals, pajamas, a pillow, and two pair of underwear. ‘Fine,’ she stormed. ‘You want me to live in the garage; I’ll move to the garage.’ She slammed the door shut and began arranging boxes in her new living space. My wife looked at me and said, ‘Good job. What are you going to do now?’ Today we all look fondly on that incident as the ‘idiot father’ episode. I learned a valuable lesson, never to threaten my children with something I could not back up.”

There is no doubt about it, parenting is hard work. This has been true in every age since time began. Parenting begins with hormonal changes to the prospective mother and splashes over to the father. It most certainly starts actively the day an infant comes home. Parenting does not stop at age sixteen or eighteen; in fact, it never stops. We are not born knowing how to be good parents, nor do any of us make effective decisions every day. Some people get reasonably good parents to use as role models; others do not. These certainties rang true throughout the ages and are still true with Indigo children. There are some additional areas, however, where parenting Indigos requires a different set of guidelines.

In many ways, it is necessary to rethink our definition of parenting in order to provide the best environment for Indigo children. Adults assume that shaping our children is the exact nature of what a parent should do. Most good parenting begins with meeting the child’s basic needs of food, clothing, and shelter, followed equally with protection and safety. Parents then go on to impose moral and religious values, character and social training, and contextual values for the larger world. Individual families add attitudes, prejudices, outside interests like sports or hobbies, and occasional inputs of formal knowledge in subjects of interest to the family. Most often, the authority structure is such that parents provide all of the above and children absorb them, preferably in an undiluted form.

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