Cokie by Steven V. Roberts
Author:Steven V. Roberts
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Harper
Published: 2021-09-02T00:00:00+00:00
Chapter Five
Friend
âShe held everybody up.â
Roberts family photo
Cokieâs friendships were deeply important to her. She understood that real relationships require time and tending, attention and affection. She did something to help a friend every single day of her life, and on many days, she did many things: wrote a note, made a call, sent a check, delivered a gift, offered a hug, held a hand, shared a meal, comforted a child, gave a talk, answered an appeal. Her door, and her heart, were always open. Her patience seemed inexhaustible and her advice invaluable. She showed up when her friends birthed their babies and buried their parents. She counseled them on choosing partners and raising families, confronting bosses and switching careers. As she got older, she extended her reach to her friendsâ children, remembering their names and birthdays, their schools and jobs. One of her most consistent commitments was visiting patients in the hospital. I used to joke that Cokie felt qualified to practice several medical specialtiesâoncology, obstetrics, even orthopedicsâbut in fact countless friends (and friends of friends) benefitted from her knowledge and leaned on her for support. She was particularly helpful to new mothersââYou know, babies donât break,â she would tell them. And she regularly reached out to women newly diagnosed with cancer. She knew that when people receive that dread news, they are often so stunned and stressed that they are not thinking clearly, and need an advocate at their side to ask questions, listen to the answers, and represent their interests. Linda Winslow recounts what happened after her surgery for ovarian cancer: âThe surgeon told me afterwards, he came out and Cokie was asking him questions. She was ferocious in her protection of me, because I didnât have any family at the time down here to do that. She was badgering this surgeon and he said, I felt like I was on Meet the Press because I kept ducking all these questions, thinking, my God, what am I in for here? I wanted to correct him and say wrong network, but I thought, oh, what the hell.â Carol Klinger, a producer at NPR who switched doctors and treatment after consulting Cokie, says simply, âI realized she probably saved my life.â
Thatâs why so many women thought they had a special relationship with Cokie. Thatâs why Bob Murphy sat at her funeral and wondered how one person could have âseveral thousandâ best friends. I talked to more than fifty of them, and I heard the same answers, the same stories, over and over again. Also the same word. Love. As Marcia Burick, a friend from Wellesley, put it, âI donât think Iâve ever known anybody who had so much love for people. Real love. Just incredible.â Nina Totenberg, her fellow Founding Mother at NPR, says, âThose of us who were lucky enough to have been her friend will probably never have a friend like that ever again. She never forgot us. She always remembered us, whether it was in her first book or in her daily life or in any speech that she gave, we were never forgotten.
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