Built for Stealth by Scott Allan

Author:Scott Allan
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: ScottAllan
Published: 2022-02-15T16:00:00+00:00

7 Tips for Handling

Rejection Sensitivity

One of the greatest illusions about rejection is that we convince ourselves we are being personally "rejected," as if someone is doing something to us. But in fact, the rejection begins on the inside. This can be traced back to your inner critics, those old voices that tell you, "You're no good," or "Why bother? You'll just fail anyway."

When we reject ourselves first, we are sending a clear message to people. It is like putting the writing on the wall yourself. People can sense when someone is lacking confidence. If you walk into a bank to get a loan and you believe—even before you meet with the loans officer—that there’s no way you'll get the loan, this feeling carries with you. Be aware of situations in which you’re rejecting yourself before anyone else gets a chance to.

Stop blaming external forces for failed results.

Taking full responsibility for your life and current situation is a powerful character-building step. By taking charge, you take control. Deciding to stop blaming others for your unhappiness is taking a healthy approach to being responsible. This doesn’t mean you have to forget what happened in the past, but you do have to move on from it.

This can only happen when you choose to live life on your terms by making a firm decision and following through with action to create a positive and fulfilling future. You are giving yourself permission to be free. Nobody else will give that to you. Once you accept your life as it is and are willing to do whatever it takes to move forward, then you are ready to be responsible.

Practice forgiveness, acceptance, and commit to moving forward. Don’t stay stuck in one spot, waiting for someone else to make it all better. When you wait for someone else to take charge, you lose the chance to make the situation better and the opportunity to heal yourself is gone.

Take an opinion as a biased lack of knowledge.

Everyone has an opinion. It is one of the ways we communicate our thoughts and emotions. We formulate opinions about each other based on what is said, actions taken, or differences in personality. If you struggle with rejection, then varying opinions can have a negative impact on your confidence.

We take the opinions and judgments from others as a personal insult. If someone doesn't like the way you look or dress, or they don't like your attitude and the way you carry yourself, you may take this too personally. There are many details other people use to construct an opinion about you as a person.

It is easy to believe everything you hear, especially if you are hypersensitive. Even though we can't stop the world from having opinions, we can choose how to accept it. Will you retaliate and come back with your own attack? Or will you take what is said as a biased remark based on lack of evidence? Besides, who really knows you better than yourself? Why should you take someone else’s word as the only truth when you know it just isn't so?

This works the other way, too.

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