From Bi to Bye by Chelsi Robichaud

Author:Chelsi Robichaud [Robichaud, Chelsi]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: JMS Books LLC
Published: 2020-12-29T00:00:00+00:00

Chapter 7

I tried to call Kristen to let her know how the night had gone, but she didn’t pick up. She wasn’t even answering my text messages, which made me nervous. Being so far away from my best friend was usually fine, but during moments like these, it was nerve-wracking. What if she was in trouble? What if she was in the hospital? She almost never disappeared without a word. I was also selfishly sad that I couldn’t talk to her. I loved it when she got super into our conversations.

I decided to distract myself by reading through the responses to my column. There was one question about infidelity that intrigued me about the complications of infidelity in bisexual relationships. I wasn’t entirely certain how it differed from infidelity in straight relationships, but I was certain I could spin it to keep it relevant. Maybe by the time I was finished writing, Kris would reply.

“Dear Tamora,

I’ve been thinking about this for a while, but I keep coming up short. Does cheating feel different for bisexual people? Or is it the same for everyone? I started thinking about it when my boyfriend expressed an interest in seeing other men. I’ve been kind of worried that even though I wasn’t okay with it, he’s still going to do it. Does the fact that he’s cheating with a man make it better than if it was a woman?

Signed,

Worried in Waterloo.”

Dear Worried in Waterloo,

Dating another bisexual person sounds like it would be a great opportunity to learn about each other on a level that simply wouldn’t be possible if one of you was straight. However, in this case, you’ve encountered an issue that you’re struggling to resolve. Your boyfriend is interested in exploring his attraction to men.

For your sake, I hope he remains loyal to you. It’s possible that he only wanted to discuss his feelings, and not act on them. Still, I can see why it would upset you. I’d be upset, too, if my partner expressed attraction to someone else.

But to answer your main question: is infidelity in relationships different for bisexuals?

Infidelity can bring up difficult emotions. For some women, learning that their boyfriend cheated on them with a man can be more upsetting than if he had cheated on them with a woman. If he cheated on you with another woman, you might feel like you’re inadequate in some way. You might ask yourself, “What does she have that I don’t?”

It’d be totally understandable, though, if you found either prospect equally as upsetting. Being bisexual, you understand that his feelings for men are just as legitimate as his feelings for women. To be fair, you’ve already expressed your discomfort with the concept of him seeing someone else. If he values your relationship at all, he’d listen to you and respect your feelings about it.

I hope it doesn’t come to it, but it might be wise to decide how you’d deal with it if it comes up. How couples deal with infidelity is deeply personal.

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