The Ultimate Edge by Thomas Tina;Gilliland Steve;

Author:Thomas, Tina;Gilliland, Steve;
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
Published: 2014-08-15T00:00:00+00:00

On those (hopefully) rare occasions when you do not keep your word, please, no excuses. Nothing is more diminishing to personal power than a lie or an excuse. Excuses erode our personal power by putting responsibility outside of yourself. If, for instance, I blame the traffic for my being late, rather than take responsibility and acknowledge that I didn’t manage my time well, then I give traffic my power. The danger in doing this repeatedly is that I may eventually believe my excuses and feel as if I don’t have any control over my circumstances.

Lies destroy personal power by splitting us and draining our energy. It takes energy to keep “little white lies” and stories straight. I like the saying “you are as sick as your secrets, and your sickness becomes your weakness.” As a secret grows, your personal power diminishes.

The healing power of honesty was demonstrated to me through working with Marlene, a psychotherapist in her mid-forties I once worked with. She sought my help when she discovered that she had an illness that was degenerative in nature. When she had to take tests and treatments, she would do so in another town and tell her clients that she was on vacation. She occasionally went so far as to spend time in tanning salons to keep her client’s curiosity to a minimum. Her field was body-mind health, and she was certain that if her clients knew her actual situation, they would see her as a phony or hypocrite, and she would be out of business.

In the meantime, she was losing all sense of joy, feeling weaker both physically and emotionally, and hating herself. When I suggested that she begin her healing journey by sharing her situation with just one client, she protested that she would probably lose her client by doing such a thing. I offered to pay for any lost income if that client left due to loss of respect for her. When I shared this offer with her, she quickly refused and said, “You know, I really don’t think that I’d lose my client. I think I am suffering from my own judgments.” She realized she was probably harder on herself than anyone else would ever be. She agreed to tell a least one client and see how she felt.

When I saw her two weeks later, she looked like a new woman, at least ten years younger, less tired from all the hiding and travel. She realized that if she wasn’t hiding, she could take her treatments in town and that would save her a lot of energy. So, not only did she tell her clients, but she also told her colleagues and her friends. Before this time, only a few family members and her boyfriend knew of her situation. She became excited and passionate about her work again, discovering and exploring even deeper levels of herself. As she began to live more powerfully by living in congruence with her truth, her clients sensed her authenticity and reported that they not only enjoyed working with her more, but made faster progress, as well.

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