The Sugar Jar by Yasmine Cheyenne

Author:Yasmine Cheyenne
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: HarperCollins
Published: 2022-10-25T00:00:00+00:00

There isn’t a circumstance where you can’t have boundaries. And you get to define them.

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Say It with Me

Boundaries keep me from carrying what never belonged to me in the first place.

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6

Find Freedom Through Acceptance

It was always hard for my friend and me to withhold information from each other when we were face-to-face. Sure, we could do the small-talk “I’m fine” thing through text or on the phone, but not today. Today for a late breakfast we sat down to our baconeggandcheese (one word in NYC) sandwiches with nothing else planned for the day other than catching up. It was that perfect weather where you can feel that summer is handing the baton over to fall and at any minute you’ll be reaching for a scarf. I love that time of the year. I looked over at my friend and, with a mouth full of my sandwich, said, “How do you know they’re changing this time?”

You know it’s an uncomfortable conversation when each person is taking a bite of food before speaking so that it’s clear that it’s the food keeping you from elaborating on the question, not the answer to the question that’s forcing you to think deeper about whether you believe what you’re saying is true.

“I can feel it. After we had that tough conversation, everything just shifted. It’s only been a week, but I’m feeling really positive,” she shared while looking down at the sidewalk. “Why are you looking at me like that,” she talked/laughed/ate while we both broke into a fit of laughter because we knew what each other was thinking and didn’t have to communicate it.

“Nothing, I . . . I really have nothing to say except that I’m proud of you for having that conversation. And I’m happy things are shifting. Just give it some time to see if they really mean it this time . . .” I shared before she abruptly cut me off.

“I thought you had nothing to say,” she yelled. We both laughed again.

I wanted to believe that things were changing for my friend’s relationship. She needed to believe that things were changing with her relationship because otherwise what was she doing? The truth was, she was doing the same thing so many of us do. We hold on to hope that the change we’re asking for in our relationships will take place so that we can all be healthier and happier together. What she wasn’t ready to do, what so many of us aren’t ready to do until we absolutely have to, is admit that the person we love might not want to change, might not have the ability to change, or is only telling us what we want to hear because, like us, they don’t want to lose the relationship either. When we don’t accept the truth, we drain our sugar jars, and each time we deny the truth, the leak grows and grows.

She balled up the foil wrapper to her baconeggandcheese sandwich and stuffed it into the oiled paper bag that held napkins only someone who was looking to get dirtier would use.

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