The Jesus Trilogy: Choice and Will Love and Surrender Beliefs, Emotions, and the Creation of Reality by Lake Gina

Author:Lake, Gina [Lake, Gina]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Endless Satsang Foundation
Published: 2014-10-21T16:00:00+00:00

Chapter 4

How Beliefs About Others Affect Your Reality

As we have seen, your beliefs about yourself affect how you feel about yourself, how you experience others, and what kinds of people you attract. Your beliefs about others are equally important in determining what kinds of experiences you will have with others and in relationship. The beliefs you hold about those around you determine how you will relate to them and how they will experience you. So let’s take a closer look at this great mystery of how you create your experience of others and, consequently, your experience of reality.

Your beliefs about people in general as well as your beliefs about specific people shape your experience of them. As for people in general, what is it you believe? Do you believe people are mean or nice? Do you believe they like you or not? Do you believe they are trustworthy or not?

And, of course, you believe different things about different groups of people: You have beliefs about poor people, beliefs about rich people, beliefs about children, beliefs about teenagers, beliefs about Christians and Jews, beliefs about Americans and every other nationality, beliefs about the different races, beliefs about women, beliefs about men, beliefs about the elderly, beliefs about attractive and unattractive people, beliefs about intelligent and not-so-intelligent people, beliefs about overweight and thin people, and on and on. That’s a lot of beliefs to be aware of and examine!

No matter how the mind divides humanity up conceptually, the ego has an opinion about those people, and it believes its own opinions. Do you see how artificial these groupings and boundaries are, how they are made up by the mind? How can opinions about imaginary groups be anything but imaginary— not real, not true?

And isn’t it interesting how your mind has an opinion about everyone and every group—instantly! That’s what minds do: They form opinions instantly, and you instantly believe your own opinions. Opinions are beliefs, and like beliefs, opinions often go unquestioned and unexamined.

Any of your beliefs can and will shape your behavior toward someone, especially if you are not aware of your beliefs and their effect on you. The more aware you are, the less your beliefs unconsciously shape your behavior. And since beliefs can be especially destructive to relationships, the less your beliefs interfere in your relationships, the better it is for everyone. Unconscious beliefs limit your ability to behave flexibly and respond naturally and freshly to the person in front of you.

Your beliefs limit your choices about how you behave. For instance, if you don’t trust men, you will behave as if you don’t trust them instead of in the many other ways you might if you did trust them. You won’t be free to be more open toward a man, which is more functional than being closed. Being more open and trusting doesn’t mean you won’t be discriminating and careful, because if you are very present to what is actually happening in the moment, your intuition will let you know if you are safe with someone or not .

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