Oops! Did I Really Post That?: Online Etiquette in the New Digital Age by John Patrick Hickey

Author:John Patrick Hickey [Patrick Hickey, John]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Motivational Press
Published: 2015-04-29T21:00:00+00:00

CHAPTER 16

Please Don’t Puke on Me

“People won’t have time for you if you are always angry and complaining.” – Stephen Hawkins

When I was a pastor at a church, I had a young man - in his thirties, which is young to me - come into my office and ask, “Why doesn’t anyone like me?” As a person who wants to make people feel better and not be hurting, I wanted to say, “That’s not true. People like you.” The problem was that I knew that people did not like him. Even I really didn’t like being around him. He was a very negative, rude, complaining and unhappy person.

I have seen this on social media all the time. There are people who do nothing but post complaints and arguments all the time. They fuss about the government, other people’s posts or thoughts, the news of the day, their jobs, or even the weather. There is no happiness, no time of feeling good about life or other people. They are just negative and unhappy all the time. Then they wonder, “Why don’t people like me?”

There is nothing wrong about sharing our opinion about current events or the things that matter in our lives. The problem is when you complain and fuss all the time and when you never give a solution, only a problem. If you approach even those things that irritate and upset you with a positive view point, you will start to offer more answers than you will complaints.

If you want to be liked by others you must be likable. No one wants to spend their time with someone who will never be happy or grateful or pleasant. It is just too much work for so little a reward. Yes, we are told to love one an another, but we are also told to rejoice, to be lovable, and to bring peace into others lives. If you want friends you must be friendly. Always complaining and posting negative comments is not going to bring you friends. No one likes to get puked on.

Joe (not a real name) was a young man I knew. Joe had a very low self image and thought that no one would ever really like him After all, he did not like himself, so why would others. What Joe feared most was being rejected. So what was his answer to this fear? He became a very nasty and rude person. Joe’s thoughts were that if he caused others to dislike him, he was in control. If they really knew him and rejected him, he would be hurt. I know that this is crazy thinking, however, it happens more often than you think.

After much work, Joe started to see he had value of his own. He came to know that God loved him for the person he really was. When Joe started to believe that he had something to offer people and he could be more of a positive influence than he was as a negative one, his life changed.

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