Observe to Unmask by Pushpendra Mehta

Author:Pushpendra Mehta [Mehta, Pushpendra]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Pushpendra Mehta
Published: 2020-07-27T00:00:00+00:00

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Unearth the Unhealthy Ego

46. Accept a compliment with class or conceit.

When you appreciate or compliment someone, observe how he or she accepts the compliment. If they return it or pass the credit on to their mentor, to someone equivalent to their rank or status, to the Almighty, or to luck, know that such people are usually humble or down-to-earth. If they pass it along to a direct report, or someone lower in rank or status, they are big-hearted and admirably classy. If they acknowledge the appreciation and immediately self-promote, directly or indirectly, they are self-conceited or a braggart.

47. Where social status matters most.

Observe people who ask questions about your income, whether you own your home or not and what kind of neighborhood it’s in, if you fly business class or economy, and other indicators of net worth that they can use as points of comparison. Such people consider social status the most important determination of self-worth.

Know that if you are of far superior social status than what may be attainable for another person, they may feel envious but may also use your privileged rank to heighten their stature among friends and family members. A classic example is name-dropping to impress others. However, if you belong to the same social class, a person may pretend to be your friend but still be secretly envious of you, and may not be able to take joy at your or your family’s success. They may play it down or dismiss it, pretend it’s no big deal.

Remember, they are competing with you, even if you’re not competing with them. They will continually feel the need to be one step ahead of you. They may undermine you in different ways, sometimes on the pretext of being funny, sometimes by commenting on your beliefs or appearance, and sometimes by planting self-doubt. Their intention is to influence others to see you in a poor light. Know that they are insecure, have low self-esteem, and want to be in control.

Recognize the status conscious by how they reduce almost everything to material considerations. When they intently observe or repeatedly comment on the stylish clothes you wear or the car you drive, their focus is on the money these things must have cost.

For people whose primary focus is the pursuit of social status, and who lack any other purpose or calling in life, you will notice that as they get older, they begin to feel restless, empty, and bored.

48. They like to name-drop.

People who continually name-drop to show how well connected they are do so to impress others, to appear important and special. Name-droppers are attention-seekers, and they wish to elevate their public persona by connecting with the better-known, wealthier, or more powerful. They are ambitious, egotistical (overinflated sense of self), and exhibitionists.

49. They like to say “I know.”

When you hear someone repeatedly say “I know” (the know-it-all), it implies false pride or arrogance. Such a person does not want to appear inferior or admit his or her ignorance about the topic being discussed.

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