Mining Your Client's Metaphors by Gina Campbell

Author:Gina Campbell [Campbell, Gina]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: BalboaPress
Published: 2013-03-28T16:00:00+00:00

Symbols May Have Conditions for Change, Too

When you ask symbols what they would like to have happen, you may find still other conditions that need to be met before the client’s desired changes can occur. These must be added to your client’s conditions for change, as they, too, are part of his system.

Example continued:

Facilitator: And you’d like to go over Bridge. And when you’d like to go over Bridge, what would Bridge like to have happen?

Client: Oh, Bridge isn’t sure he likes that idea!! Bridge wants to be sure he won’t be lonely.

Facilitator: And Bridge wants to be sure he won’t be lonely. And what needs to happen for Bridge to be sure he won’t be lonely?

Client: He wants me to promise I’ll come back to visit.

Facilitator: And promise you’ll come back to visit. And is there anything else Bridge needs to happen for him to be sure he won’t be lonely?

Client: He needs to be sure I’ll keep my promise.

Facilitator: And Bridge needs you to promise to come back to visit and Bridge needs to be sure you’ll keep your promise. And is there anything else that needs to happen for Bridge to be sure he won’t be lonely?

Client: No, that’s all.

Facilitator: And when Bridge wants you to promise to come back to visit, and needs to be sure you’ll keep your promise, what needs to happen for Bridge to be sure you’ll keep your promise?

Client: He needs to trust me.

Facilitator: And he needs to trust you. And be sure you’ll keep your promise. And come back to visit. And is there anything else that needs to happen for Bridge to be sure he won’t be lonely?

Client: No, that’s all.

And so it goes. You can see how the list of conditions for change of multiple symbols, along with your client’s conditions, can really multiply! In essence, each one of them becomes a new desired outcome, all serving the initial desired outcome.

Although facilitating all these many parts may seem overwhelming when you’re learning, once you’ve mastered the basics, this is actually the sort of challenge I suspect you will enjoy. This fantastic puzzle is unfolding before you, and you’re helping your client find all the pieces and figure out how they go together and what he wants to change. What fun!

4.1 Activity

For each of the following client statements, consider what the client might gather more information about that would help him to be able to identify his conditions for change. Ask at least three CLQs to develop that info. Then ask for conditions for change.

Example:

Client: I want to step into a brighter future that I determine for myself.

Facilitator: And step into a brighter future you determine for yourself.

1. And when determine for yourself, what kind of determine is that determine?

2. And when step into a brighter future, that’s step into like what?

3. And when a brighter future, whereabouts is that brighter future?

4. And what needs to happen for you to step into that brighter future?

1. The real me wants to come out and really shine!

2. The filter needs to be clear so the water can flow and the pump can keep pumping.

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