Mastering Self-Confidence with NLP by Dr. Kerry L Johnson MBA PhD

Author:Dr. Kerry L Johnson MBA PhD
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: G&D Media
Published: 2019-06-14T16:00:00+00:00

Restructuring Beliefs

As in Suzanne’s case, beliefs can be self-sabotaging, especially when they are incorrect or bad for us. It sometimes takes a problem or tragedy to illuminate our knowledge to the point that we can change. The following story illustrates this beautifully.

A man once found the cocoon of a butterfly. He began keeping an eye on it and one day noticed that a small opening had appeared. The man sat and watched for several hours as the butterfly struggled to force its body through the little hole. Then the butterfly seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as though it had gotten as far as it could and could go no further.

The man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly emerged easily, but it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly, expecting that at any moment the wings would enlarge and expand to support the body, which would contract in time.

Neither happened! The butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able

In his kindness and haste, the man did not understand that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were nature’s way of forcing fluid from the butterfly’s body into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it was free from the cocoon.

Fortunately, sometimes with education and sometimes with self-confidence, we can change our beliefs to support our goals. One way of doing this is the submodality change technique, which can help us discover how beliefs can be diffused and reformulated in a new way.

To grasp this technique, envision a belief you hold. Play with each pictorial difference in this belief. Try to change the brightness, color, vividness, size, and other features that you may notice. Make sure the belief is very specific.

For example, make your belief about future wealth a big house in the countryside. Make your belief about becoming a better golfer into a picture of you winning a major tournament in a couple of years. If your belief is that you will receive an advanced education, you might imagine a cap and gown. Use whatever represents your belief in the most visual and tangible way you can.

Now call up a picture of the belief that you want to change and alter its characteristics. If your belief is large, make your picture small. If your belief is bright, make your picture dim. If it’s detailed, make your picture fuzzy. If your belief is stable, make your picture flash. If your belief has color, change it to black-and-white. With each of these steps, notice the psychological and emotional changes you undergo.

Next, deliberately weaken the belief you want to change. Once you make this picture dim, small, and in black-and-white, you’ll start to see it flash as it fades away. If you leave that frame empty with no picture to replace it, you’ll experience anxiety.

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