Islamic Guide To Sexual Relations by Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari

Author:Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Turath Publishing

OTHER CONTEMPORARY FORMS OF FOREPLAY

We have discussed the general Islamic guidelines concerning foreplay. However, there are new methods of foreplay and sexual stimulation, and it is important to understand the Islamic viewpoint concerning them.

1) Using Sex Aids and Toys

A sex aid is an object used to trigger or enhance sexual arousal or orgasm that a couple can use in masturbation or other sexual activity. Some of the most common are dildos, vibrators, clitoral stimulators, extension condoms, vaginal balls and various creams and lotions.

Among Muslim couples, the use of sex aids is an increasingly common method of enhancing sexual performance, but Islamically, certain things need to be considered.

a) The Sharīʿa does not permit one to harm oneself. As such, if a sex aid harms either of the two spouses, it is not permitted to use it. It is necessary that the aid not cause any harm whatsoever to either spouse.

b) Certain aids are figures in the form of animate life. Such aids are not permitted to use, as picture-making (taṣwīr) is unlawful.

c) Using lubricants, lotions, gels and creams is permitted, without dislike, provided they cause no harm.

d) Using an aid such as a vibrator to stimulate any part of the body except the private parts, or to stimulate the outer private parts of the wife, including her clitoris, is also permitted. The proviso here is that it must be used by one’s spouse and not by the person themselves. To use such aids alone as a means of alleviating one’s loneliness is sinful, and would be considered a form of masturbation. As such, if it is feared that using aids with one’s spouse would lead one into using them when alone, then they must be avoided.

e) Inserting a vibrator or a dildo into the inner-private parts of the wife for her to have an orgasm is not permitted, even if the husband uses it on her. Likewise, it is not permitted for the husband to use aids such as masturbators and realistic vaginas to ejaculate, even if he is accompanied by his wife. The Sharīʿa allows the couple to derive benefit from any part of each other’s bodies, as explained earlier, but does not permit them to masturbate in front of each other using another object. It is akin to a woman holding an object for her husband to masturbate with until he ejaculates. Clearly, this is not permitted.

Using sex aids can have adverse effects on the relationship. The man can become lazy, it may prevent husband-wife bonding that natural sexual relations provide, and it can cause the wife to consider her husband incapable of satisfying her naturally and lose respect for him. As such, it is best to avoid using sex aids altogether, whether the intention is to spice up one’s relations or even to use it as a last resort.

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