How to Have That Difficult Conversation by Henry Cloud
Author:Henry Cloud
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: ebook
Publisher: Zondervan
Published: 2020-03-12T00:00:00+00:00
DEALING WITH RESISTANCE
If you have a resistant person in your life, the number one stance you will need to adopt to learn how to deal with her is this: Stop being surprised that she does not welcome the truth. Nothing can happen until you accept the reality that, for whatever reason, she avoids confrontation. Many people who want to confront someone adopt a âfalse hopeâ stance; they simply hope that one day the other person will hunger for feedback. While one purpose of this book is to help make that happen, simply hoping against hope is not enough. So take the steps below to increase the chances that in time she will see the truth as something that heals her and brings her life.
Show Grace and Love
When you are preparing to confront a resistant person, remember that he also needs relationship, safety, and grace. He may resist due to hurt or past experiences that made truth dangerous or unsafe for him. Grace and love are not everything a person needs; however, they are the most important elements he needs. In addition, without grace and love, it is unlikely that anything redemptive will happen in your conversation.
Come to the talk being âforâ him, knowing that you also are in need of love and grace: âAbove all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sinsâ (1 Peter 4:8). This doesnât mean to avoid truth. Grace is not the absence of truth. Rather, it allows truth to be accepted and digested more easily.
It is easy to forget this, especially when you have tried many times to address problems and have been frustrated or hurt by a personâs avoidance. You may be tempted to start off with something like âI am fed up with trying with you. I doubt that this talk will even help; the others sure havenât. But I will try this one more time to get through to you. I will not be surprised if you throw this back in my face, like you have a million other times.â If you are feeling this way, you may need to receive some grace yourself from others to process your own emotions about the difficulty of the situation.
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