GLBTQ by Kelly Huegel

Author:Kelly Huegel
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Youth
Publisher: Free Spirit Publishing
Published: 2012-04-17T04:00:00+00:00

If one or more of these sounds familiar, you might be in an abusive relationship.

Stopping Abuse

Abuse is never acceptable. It is your right to leave an abusive (or any) relationship immediately. If you identify abuse (or patterns that could lead to it) in your relationship and want to address it with your partner, here is some guidance that could help.

1. Tell him how his words or actions make you feel. Emphasize that it’s your right to feel safe and supported in relationships.

2. If he is apologetic and seems genuinely remorseful, it’s up to you whether you want to give him another chance. But be very careful. Abusive relationships often have cycles. The abusive person is very apologetic for what he’s done and swears he will “never do it again.” Things are good for a while, but then the old pattern of abuse can start again.

3. If the abuse starts again, it’s time to get out. Everyone makes mistakes, but chances are the abuse is part of a cycle, and it’s only a matter of time before that behavior shows itself again.

What If It’s You? What if you’re worried that you are the one treating your partner disrespectfully or abusively? Recognizing this is a very important step. Consider these questions: Is this the type of person you want to be? Is this the kind of relationship you want to have, instead of one built on mutual respect and trust? There can be a lot of reasons why you’re treating your partner abusively. Maybe this is the kind of relationship your parents or other family members have. You might need to get support for emotional issues you’re dealing with. It’s not too late to get help. You, too, can call any of the resources listed in this chapter or talk to a trusted adult. Do it not just for your partner, but also for yourself.

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