Controlling and Manipulative Men: How To Spot Them, Deal With Them And Avoid Them by Presser Janice

Author:Presser, Janice [Presser, Janice]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Make Profits Easy LLC
Published: 2015-04-13T07:00:00+00:00

Chapter 5: Dealing with Them – Learning to Say “No”

Even if your man has decided to get help, your work is still not done. You need to work on yourself a little bit. Part of what makes a manipulative and controlling man so successful is how you respond to him. I need you to think about the next time he asks you to do something you don’t want to do and you agree to do it. What if it is illegal? What if it is dangerous? If you get caught or harmed, it is YOU who has to live with the consequences. Is his approval so important that you are willing to potentially face criminal or medical consequences? If the answer to that question is “No,” keep reading.

When your man is asking you to do something you do not want to do, it is okay to be selfish and say “No.” What does saying “Yes” cost you? It costs you your time. You may have to rearrange or cancel your own plans to find the time to meet your man’s demands. You could miss out on opportunities if you are busy filling another person’s requests all of the time. It may even cost you your money. It can cost you your dignity depending on the request. Meeting the demands of your manipulative and controlling man can cost you your health and wellness. When you feel compelled to say “Yes,” you can be filled with a lot of anxiety and stress. The burden of meeting expectations of your man also increases the stress in your life. Stress decreases your immune system and increases blood pressure, which can cause a variety of health problems. Saying “Yes” can cost you your life in more ways than you think. Your manipulative, controlling man may make demands that can put you in danger of injury, criminal charges, and even death. Choices you feel compelled to make can cost you your home. In some cases, it can even cost you your children.

If your man has been manipulating you, you have been saying “Yes” for far too long. It’s much easier to say “Yes” to someone, especially a manipulative, controlling man. It’s likely you’re afraid saying “No” will create conflict. You don’t want to upset your man and you know “No” is not the answer for which he is looking. You may be afraid of the consequences he will impose if you do not meet his demands. Perhaps your man is promising you something you want in exchange for doing something you don’t want to do. You may say “Yes” because you don’t want to miss out on an opportunity to gain something.

Whatever your reason for saying “Yes” all of the time, it’s time to learn to say “No.” You need to focus on yourself. Figure out what you want and know your limits. It’s not okay to feel like you have to do something you don’t want to do. You are your own person and have free will to make your own choices.

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