The Ex-Wives' Guide to Divorce by Holiday Miller

Author:Holiday Miller
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Skyhorse Publishing
Published: 2016-07-11T16:00:00+00:00

What about custody?

If you think your husband is going to fight you in the area of custody, which is normally one of the biggest concerns among parents, according to Captain Carol, you will need to convey to your prospective attorney the following important points:

1. What is your typical parenting style for the child (or children) and what is your husband’s parenting style?

2. Does one parent currently spend a considerably larger amount of time with the child (children) than the other?

3. How do you divide up the responsibilities?

4. Is a child particularly bonded to one parent more than the other parent?

5. Is one parent the fun parent and the other the disciplinarian?

6. Do your children have any special needs and, if so, which parent spends their time addressing those needs?

7. Are any of your children old enough to make a legal declaration as to which parent they wish to live with?

8. Are you prepared to accept the situation if they do not wish to live with you?

Captain Carol states, “Be sure to have these answers ready to give to the attorney at your initial consultation. They will use these as insight as to how they may help you now, as well as in the future.”

This is where we, as ex-wives with children, need to warn you: don’t be surprised if your spouse uses custody to threaten you. This is a scare tactic and it’s a “go-to” manipulation strategy men use to flex their muscles. Remember, he’s going to do anything he can to push your buttons. If you’re like most mothers in this world, your children are the hottest button of all. If we had a dollar for every girlfriend who has called us in hysterics regarding her husband’s custody threats we would be dirty, filthy rich. During this time of crisis, it is more important than ever to be the best parent you can be. Keep your composure and try your best to be level-headed. Leave the custody threats to your attorney—yet another reason to make sure you find the right fit for you!

Every time my ex and I would fight during our separation he would threaten me that he was going to get full custody of our children. I would cry myself to sleep almost every night. As soon as I hired an attorney, I told him what was happening. He suggested I record it once, save it, and then pay no attention to it. He also said I should tell him that threat is not going to work anymore. It worked like a charm.

—Denise

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