Questions You Can't Ask Your Mama About Sex by Craig Gross

Author:Craig Gross
Language: eng
Format: azw3, epub
Tags: Array
Publisher: Zondervan
Published: 0101-01-01T00:00:00+00:00

Chapter Six

Sexual Addiction

Hardcore

hang-ups

I’m a sixteen-year-old male and I have the age-old problem of porn. Every time I get online, I’m attracted to banner ads and I always get sucked in. Do you know of any way that I can break myself of this?

The first thing you can do, if you really want to stop, is to put your computer in the kitchen and only go online when your mom is cooking meals. I would bet money that you won’t be tempted to click on any nudie sites while mom is making dinner. If this is too hard for you, then get rid of your computer altogether.

If you must have a computer, try downloading our accountability software, X3watch. When you do so, you’ll need to enter the e-mail address of a person (or persons) who will periodically receive a listing of the Web sites you’ve looked at recently. Sign up your mom as well as a friend or pastor. I wouldn’t want to be at your house when your mom sees a report with porn sites on it!

In addition, XXXchurch has partnered with Integrity Online, the nation’s largest filtered Internet provider, to provide clean Internet access. Sign up today at www.integrity.com.

Can you be born a sex addict?

Studies have shown that addictive personalities tend to run in families. Now, you can debate the old argument of Nature versus Nurture over and over, but we think there is a more important factor to discuss here—choice.

Each of us has been given the ability to choose and to make wise decisions. We are not robots programmed for sex addiction. Some people may have a greater tendency to become addicted to sex, drugs, or other stuff like that, but the bottom line is that each of us has a choice.

Let’s quit living below the level that God has called us to and blaming our genes for the choices we make. It is not based on our heritage. It is not based on our ethnicity. It is rooted in sin.It is important to remember that we’re human beings who can practice self-control.

I have been addicted to porn for fi ve years. I have read self-help books, prayed, read the Word, told my girlfriend, and even asked my pastor to keep me accountable. Is there anything else you can suggest?

Consider the big difference between the following statements: “Lord, take this from me,” and “Lord, I give this to you.” It may seem like interpretation stuff, but in reality it can make a huge difference. God desires to give us whole and abundant lives. How much better is it when we willfully offer to give our desires and failures to him?

God will not reach out of heaven and try to pry our fingers off our sin. That would invalidate the free will we’ve been given. Yet he is quick to take on our failure if we are willing to give it to him. Remain encouraged, because Psalm 51:7 reminds us that God can purify us and make us “whiter than snow.

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