Holistic Counseling--Introducing by Moshe Daniel Block

Author:Moshe Daniel Block [Block, Moshe Daniel]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 978-1-78535-210-2
Publisher: John Hunt Publishing
Published: 2016-03-25T00:00:00+00:00

The Blank-Stare, Open-Mouthed Wall – Keep on Going

This sort of answer (If I don’t clean up, nobody else will clean up), I call a “blank stare, open-mouthed” wall, and that is not on the part of the patient, but on the part of the practitioner. It happens when a response from a patient seems so dead ended and obvious that it seems as if there’s nothing to ask at this point that can get a person to go deeper. It occurs often in ‘real’ situations. For example, a situation may arise where we’re dialoguing with a patient who got sick following the loss of a loved one. “And when I lost my son, I knew life would never be the same.” Here, the practitioner can completely understand what the patient is saying and sympathizes so much so that there seems nothing else to be said or done. It can also feel like, “If I ask anything else right now, I will be so insensitive.” It can make you sit there thinking, “Geez. I have nothing else to ask right now.” The practitioner of Holistic Counseling must remember, that at all times, even though a real, tough situation exists, and what a person is experiencing is normal and natural, there are still other dimensions to be explored.

The patient is consulting you because of sickness and suffering. So yes, life is tough, and things happen that challenge us to the very core. But that doesn’t mean that there have not been choices adopted that cannot be changed and released that are adding to our suffering. Therefore, in such a case, I will continue to press on with questions, to get to the bottom of the suffering. This requires a very strong and clear male energy balanced, of course, with compassionate and tender female energy. In plain terms, some real chutzpah is needed. If a practitioner has issues with “inconveniencing” others, if they feel hesitant to challenge others’ pain, this part of the dialogue will be a stumbling block for them. Since this blank-stare, open-mouthed wall can be encountered often enough, it is necessary to do some deep soul-searching and to trust that, even when it seems so obvious what a patient is saying, there is always something else to be asked. Sometimes a person’s response seems so “obvious” about the answer that one wouldn’t think to ask anything about it. It’s almost as if the patient is saying, “Don’t you dare ask me anything else about this.” Or, “This is point-finale, and there’s nothing else to be said about this.” This can be a little nerve wracking, but nevertheless, asking the patient about it can help them move past a story they’ve been telling themselves over and over that seems like the only truth, so obvious and matter of fact, as if there’s nothing to be done about it. Don’t stop there. Keep going. Keep investigating to find where the patient is holding onto the false belief that is making them sick.

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