Dads and Sons by James C. Dobson

Author:James C. Dobson
Language: eng
Format: mobi
Tags: FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Parenting / General, FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Parenting / Fatherhood, Religion / Christian Life / Inspirational
ISBN: 9781414388243
Publisher: Tyndale Momentum
Published: 2014-04-18T00:00:00+00:00

Sons and Their Relationships with Girls

Specific life instruction that dads should transmit to their sons could fill many books, but I’ll focus on the subtopic of what a father should teach his boys specifically about girls and women. They are unlikely to learn it anywhere else.

I’m going to throw some suggestions at you now in rapid succession, assuming you are a father of one or more boys. Here we go:

If you speak disparagingly of the opposite sex, or if you refer to females as sex objects, those attitudes will translate directly into your son’s dating and marital relationships later on. It all starts with your example.

Remember that your goal is to prepare a boy to lead a family when he’s grown and to show him how to earn the respect of those he serves. Tell him it is great to laugh and have fun with his friends, but advise him not to be “goofy.” Guys who are goofy are not respected, and people, especially girls and women, do not follow boys and men whom they disrespect.

Also, tell your son that he is never to hit or hurt a girl under any circumstances; rather, he should respect her and protect her if she is threatened. When he is walking with a girl on the street, he should walk on the outside, nearer the cars —symbolic of his responsibility to take care of her. When he is on a date, he should pay for her food and entertainment. Guys must be the initiators, planning the dates and asking for the girl’s company. Teach your son to open doors for girls and to help them with their coats or their chairs in a restaurant. When a guy goes to her house to pick up his date, tell him to get out of the car and knock on the door. Never honk. Teach him to stand, in formal situations, when a woman leaves the room or a table or when she returns. This is a way of showing respect for her.

If he treats her like a lady, she will treat him like a man. It’s a great plan.

Make a concerted effort to teach sexual abstinence to your teenagers, just as you teach them to abstain from drug and alcohol usage and other harmful behavior. Of course you can do it! Young people are fully capable of understanding that irresponsible sex is not in their best interest and that it leads to disease, unwanted pregnancy, rejection, etc. In many cases today, no one is sharing this truth with teenagers. Parents are embarrassed to talk about sex, and, it disturbs me to say, churches are often unwilling to address the issue. Very little support is provided even for young people who are desperately looking for a valid reason to say no. Instead, they’re told that “safe sex” is fine if they just use the right equipment.

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