1-2-3 Magic Teen: Communicate, Connect, and Guide Your Teen to Adulthood by Phelan Thomas

Author:Phelan, Thomas [Phelan, Thomas]
Language: eng
Format: azw3
Publisher: Sourcebooks
Published: 2016-10-31T16:00:00+00:00

It’s not for us to define your list of MBAs. What’s important is for you to understand the MBA concept first, and then to decide what items you will place on the list. There’s a lot of potential relief in that little exercise!

If you’re concerned about the phone bill, make a deal that the kids pay for any charges over a certain amount per month. Otherwise, leave them alone and don’t listen.

Another MBA-type “problem” has to do with dress and appearance. This issue involves clothing, hair, earrings, and other attachments to or through the body. It’s not reasonable to expect your teens to want to dress like you. Remember, often, part of their thinking is that they want to look as different from you as possible.

One solution to the appearance problem: the kids can wear anything that the school will let them in the door with. Of course, schools’ criteria are not too strict these days, but this policy does offer some control.

Another MBA? That messy room. What a pit! Your stomach writhes in agony every time you look at it. You have forgotten what color the carpet is. The cat was last seen in there three weeks ago. Do you know that there are no studies that prove that teens with messy rooms grow up to be criminals or have a higher divorce rate than the rest of the population?

A possible solution? It may be just to close the door and don’t look. Or leave the door open and close your eyes as you go past. A sloppy bedroom is aggravating, but it isn’t really a major problem. Also, be realistic. If all the nagging and arguing and lecturing you’ve done over the years hasn’t convinced your seventeen-year-old son to clean his room regularly, he probably isn’t going to start now, no matter what you do. We respectfully suggest that you have lost the battle. It’s not the end of the world, and you don’t want arguing about a messy room to be the end of your relationship with your child.

If you already have your own rules about the MBAs we have mentioned so far, and your rules are working just fine, pay no attention to the advice here. What does “working just fine” mean? Two things. First, the rules are not unreasonably restrictive. Second, the rules do not result in a lot of arguing.

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