The Conscious Parent's Guide to Childhood Anxiety by Sherianna Boyle

Author:Sherianna Boyle [Boyle, Sherianna]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2015-12-12T00:00:00+00:00

Procrastination

It helps to realize that most children with anxiety do procrastinate. They can have a hard time thinking things through, and if they are stuck in a ritual or familiar process of self-doubt, they will not get very far with a task. Procrastination is a form of self-sabotage; it blocks your child from feeling a sense of accomplishment. Children who procrastinate often feel stuck. Inside they may know they need to make changes but are unsure about what changes to make. Many times they hang on to what is familiar (procrastination) out of fear of feeling what is unfamiliar. As a parent it’s important to encourage your child to slowly shift her ways. Perhaps encouraging her to start her homework thirty minutes rather than one hour earlier is more realistic.

Try not to take your child’s procrastination personally. For example, notice if you feel disrespected, ignored, or challenged in any way. Procrastination may be a trigger for some parents, and typically what fuels this trigger is an underlying fear that your child will fail or that you have somehow failed as a parent. Once you allow yourself to own that truth and take a moment to feel your fear rather than react to it, you and your child can begin to go about making changes that work for everyone.

Remember that lectures, repeating commands, yelling, and interrupting fuel your child’s anxiety. Less is more. Be clear about what you are asking for. For example, rather than saying, “Clean your room,” instead say, “Make your bed, put away clean laundry, and bring dirty laundry downstairs.” Keep the number of tasks low so your child can feel a sense of completion.

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