Radical Honesty by Blanton Dr. Brad

Author:Blanton, Dr. Brad [Blanton, Brad]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: psychology, self help
Publisher: Sparrowhawk Press
Published: 2013-09-22T04:00:00+00:00

My Anger Is Too Explosive; I Might Hurt Someone

In the beginning, an attempt to change the habit of smothering anger can be explosive. The backed-up fund of resentment is released in a torrent.

The first blow-up seems like a nuclear explosion, both because of its magnitude and because it contrasts so dramatically with former politeness. After a little practice, the explosions become like conventional bombs, then like dynamite, and then like firecrackers. The eventual goal is to have hundreds of tiny explosions a minute, like an internal combustion engine. This anger is good fuel to burn; it's a source of creative energy.

What usually happens without a good guide through the initial explosive experiences is that the person runs away from the experience. For this reason, the progression down the path from “explosion” to “engine” doesn't occur. If a therapist or friend can support an angry person to stay with the experience of being angry even a few seconds longer with each explosion, the cure for phony heroics can begin. Paying attention to the experience of feeling in the body while angry is the key to learning how to use anger rather than have anger use you. That awareness of feeling in the body is what causes anger to change from a destructive force to a usable power.

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