On Relationship by Krishnamurti

Author:Krishnamurti [Krishnamurti]
Language: eng
Format: epub, mobi
Publisher: HarperCollins
Published: 2016-06-28T04:00:00+00:00

San Francisco, 10 March 1973

ONE HAS TO find out what it means to observe, to observe your relationship with another, however intimate or however distant. Observation implies total attention. Please do this as we are talking, not as a group therapy, which is a horror, or some kind of group entertainment, which is absurd, but observe actually “what is” so that there is no distortion, so that prejudice, tendencies, various forms of inclinations don’t enter into it. Pure observation without distortion means attention. This attention comes naturally; you don’t have to go to college or practise or all the rest of the absurdity that is going on when you are really deeply interested. If you are not, then there is something radically wrong. When the house is burning, when there is so much catastrophe going on, not to be interested, not to be totally concerned or totally committed to the resolution of the problem, indicates a mind that is totally dead. So, to observe your relationship and to transform it.

Transformation takes place in relationship—in which there is division and hence conflict, jealousy, anxiety, insecurity, violence, and all the rest of those things born out of division—through observation. Observe what goes on. If you observe you will see that your relationship with another is based on knowledge, knowledge which is the past, knowledge which becomes the image about another. Listening to the speaker, you have an image about the speaker, which is obvious, otherwise you wouldn’t be here. Your image of the speaker is based on reputation, propaganda, books, and all the rest of it. Actually, you don’t know the speaker at all, but you have an image about him. Therefore that image divides. You have an image about your wife, your girlfriend, boyfriend, that image is built on knowledge of past events, happenings. And this image, which is born out of knowledge in relationship, brings about division. That’s a fact; we don’t have to go into it, argue or analyse, it is so. And these images, verbal, structural, romantic, intellectual, emotional, and so on, all bring about a basic fundamental division. You have an image about yourself, that you must be this or that, and you have an image about the other, so your relationship is between these two images and therefore there is no actual relationship, and hence conflict.

Now can that structure of relationship be totally changed, radically transformed? Then we will create a totally different society. And it is only possible when we are sharing, thinking, creating together. In this there is no authority whatsoever because you are observing your own self, your own image of yourself and the image that you have created about another, which creates division.

Then the question arises: How is it possible not to create images at all? You understand? I hope we are following each other, are we? Is it possible for the mind that has been cultivated, that has acquired tremendous knowledge through experience, which is the past, this mind that has

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