How to Talk to Anybody, Anytime, Anywhere by Chris Widener

Author:Chris Widener
Language: eng
Format: mobi, epub, pdf
Publisher: AudioInk Publishing
Published: 2013-07-03T07:00:00+00:00

STEP 2: FIND A CONNECTION

Now the next key, however, is to find a connection. So, you ask questions until you find a connection. For example, a conversation may go something like this:

“Hi, what’s your name?”

“My name is Joe.”

“Oh, Joe, it’s nice to meet you. How do you fit into the grand scheme of things around here?”

“Bob, the groom, is my cousin.”

“Oh, that’s fantastic! What do you do for a living?”

“I sell insurance.”

Well, everybody either needs insurance or already has insurance so that might be a connection right there. The conversation continues,

“What kind of insurance?”

“Well, I sell insurance to oil rigs out in the sea.”

OK, well the connection is now lost because you probably don’t buy insurance for oil rigs that are based out in the sea. But if he sells life insurance, a connection is made and a conversation about insurance can carry on.

“Well, I sell life insurance.”

“Oh that’s interesting. I just bought a policy.”

“What kind of policy did you get?”

If you are in the market for insurance you might say, “Oh I am actually thinking about buying some insurance. Would you mind if I ask you a couple of questions?” As long as you are not in the thick of the wedding, this is a great ice breaker. If you are at the reception, all the toasts are done and you are having a little bit of champagne and kicking back, this is an opportune time to pursue a conversation. You don’t want to get deep into a discussion where it might distract them with from what the real purpose of the event is. Keep it light; the goal is to find a connection.

Let’s say he is in some sort of business that you have no connection to and don’t know anything about in order to continue in that area of questioning. Then you would move on to another question such as, “I noticed that you have an accent. Where is that from?” He might say, “Oh, well I am originally from Dallas”. If it was me, I would say. “Oh, Dallas! I used to have an office in Dallas where I shot my TV show. What part of Dallas were you from?” He tells you and then you can ask “How is the housing market down there?” You are just trying to find a connection. Maybe you go through all that and he’s lived in a place that you have never lived and do not know much about. Maybe he’s from an area that you don’t know about or he’s in a business that you are not knowledgeable about. Again, these things are fine, you are just asking questions.

Another ice breaker question could be, “What do you do for fun?” Perhaps his idea of fun is going to a major league baseball game and you are also a big baseball fan. Now you have found a connection. You just are looking and addressing these questions in order to find a connection. Maybe they are into the theater or maybe they are into golf or saving wild life, it doesn’t matter.

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