How to Make Friends as an Introvert by Nate Nicholson

Author:Nate Nicholson
Language: pol
Format: epub
Publisher: Blue Sky Publishing
Published: 0101-01-01T00:00:00+00:00

Make Other People Remember Your Name

We all have problems remembering names. Make it easier for strangers to remember your name by repeating it throughout the conversation.

For instance, you can say, “So I said to myself: Nate, are you really that stupid not to go see a doctor if something snapped in your back when doing yoga exercises?”

How to Deal with Despised Small Talk

Small talk is easy to deal with if you change your views about it. The purpose of small talk isn’t to keep chatting about weather for thirty minutes. Its aim is to find out what things you and the person you’re speaking with share.

The key to avoiding a long-winded and sleep-inducing chat about someone’s extended family is to ask the right questions. The way you start the conversation is the way it will unfold. If you start off with standard questions, you’ll have your standard small talk chat. If you quickly go into deeper topics, you’ll find yourself deeply interested in the conversation.

We all have canned responses to small talk questions, so by just asking different questions you will immediately make someone more interested in you.

Just to give you an example, a standard small talk question is, “What do you do for fun?” An unconventional question to ask would be, “What was the most fun thing you did in the last year?”

It’s a great question to ask because it’s upbeat (you’re asking about the most fun thing so it’s bound to bring good memories) and makes it easy to get the other person talking (who doesn’t like talking about good times?).

Moreover, you’ll learn if the stranger is someone who’s a party-goer (if she says she had most fun during a party), if he has any particular hobbies (perhaps he’s deeply passionate about something) or even how happy she is with her life.

Here’s how such a conversation can go:

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