Death of the Cheating Man by Maxwell Billieon & Ray J

Author:Maxwell Billieon & Ray J
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Strebor Books International

Learning How Not to Cheat

“All men are created equal.”—This statement from the U.S. Constitution couldn’t be more appropriate for cheaters. So, I’ve written a new universal constitution for cheating that goes like this: “All men are created equal, when it comes to cheating.”

Now let me clarify. I’m not saying that all men cheat; that’s not true. But I’m saying that all men are equal because we have never been taught how not to cheat as a whole.

I do believe that our wiring for cheating comes from our social breeding. Men aren’t bred to cheat, but we are bred to lie. Most men are socially bred to lie to themselves about their true desires and needs when it comes to intimacy.

Notice, I didn’t say sex; I said intimacy. That includes sex but also means conversation, spending time together, hanging out, text messages, emails, phone calls, social networking and anything else that involves intimate time.

Cheating can only occur when a man or woman breaches the agreement that has been set with their mate to govern their intimate relationships with other people. If there is no agreement, there is no cheating.

When two people jointly create the rules of their commitment up front, there is no room for confusion or misinterpretation of the agreement. But when we leave the rules to assumption, we often find out that what we assumed would be common sense, wasn’t very common at all.

All intimate relationships should have an agreement. That goes for marriages as well as boyfriend and girlfriend relationships. A violation of the agreement with the opposite sex on any level is cheating.

Learning how not to cheat is as simple as keeping the agreement. And in cases where we no longer want to keep them, learning to communicate that to the other person and exiting the relationship will eliminate cheating altogether.

So if it’s that simple, why do so many men cheat?

Men cheat because we haven’t been taught the basic skills to function in monogamous relationships. Consequently, there are two basic issues that get men into trouble with cheating.

1

Getting involved in a committed

relationship where we are incapable

of being faithful either because we

haven’t learned the skills to be

monogamous or refuse to be honest

with ourselves about our desire

to be polyamorous.

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