Calling Bullsh*t on Busy: A Practical Guide to Ditching the Time Management Myth and Quickly Achieving Your Goals by Andrew Mellen

Author:Andrew Mellen [Mellen, Andrew]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9798987477410
Publisher: First Line Press
Published: 2023-05-15T14:00:00+00:00

PUTTING IT INTO PRACTICE: SAYING NO

Practice saying no to the following types of people, and write down or record how you’ll say it:

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Boss

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Coworker

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Partner/Spouse

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Parent

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Child

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Other family member

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Friend

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Frenemy

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Neighbor

If role-playing doesn’t feel too hokey or contrived, give it a try. There is tremendous power and competence gained by saying the words out loud rather than just thinking them. It will be much easier to say them to someone else when you’ve already heard yourself saying them out loud.

Use either an actual or a familiar request you’ve gotten from these people to get you started.

THE BOTTOM LINE

The only thing better than good news is bad news fast.

You aren’t helping anyone by saying “maybe” when the answer will ultimately be “no.”

We all know how it feels when someone does it to us—we think they’re rearranging their schedule to accommodate our request and they’re really just burning through a few days, thinking the lapsed time will soften the blow when they tell us no. It’s a waste of everyone’s time and just slows us down on the search for a “yes.”

Practice saying no right away to things you don’t want to do or don’t have time for.

Practice stopping yourself before you say “because” or give an excuse or explanation for why the answer is no. You don’t have to be smug or mean—you also don’t need to be a doormat.

Never lie to yourself, thinking that you don’t control your own life and, by extension, your schedule. With very few exceptions (on-call emergency doctors, for instance), you do. There may be consequences to saying no, but there are also consequences to saying yes. Decide for yourself which is better or worse and then make your choice.

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