Breathe, Focus, Attack by Ian Schechter

Author:Ian Schechter [Schechter, Ian]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2019-04-15T04:00:00+00:00

Does it actually look good on me?

Have I worn it in the last six months?

Will I wear it in the next six months?

If you can’t answer “yes” to at least three—preferably four—of these questions, it’s safe to donate. If the thought of doing this makes you nervous, shoot for one bag of old clothes at first. Donate them to a thrift store, and check in with yourself a week later. I’ll bet you any amount of money you won’t be missing the items you donated.

Often we hang on to stuff we used to love that doesn’t really have a place in our life anymore (see a metaphor there?), or things we have some sentimental attachment to. I also keep some things for sentimental value—but not a million. How often do you take these objects out and quietly smile at them, fondly reminiscing? Probably not often. Sometimes people keep things around not because it truly makes them happier to do it, but because they think it will feel bad to say goodbye. But they’re just things . Your memories are not attached to them. You will not forget just because the things are gone. In many cases, those things can go on to live second lives in someone else’s wardrobe, which is a beautiful thing. Instead of gathering dust in your closet, the item will be making someone happy.

While you’re doing this, think about what you’re unwilling to part with—the things in your life that you have to protect at all costs—and the things that, like old clothes, you can leave behind.

Focus: A Friendly Reminder

If your non-negotiables are things you have yet to achieve, you’ll achieve them most quickly when you apply laser-like focus to the effort. And since you’ll already have decided that other pursuits are things you don’t necessary need, you’ll know it will be okay to divert some of that time, money, and energy into making those non-negotiables a reality. Once you’re set up in such a way that you’ve got your non-negotiables covered, you can turn your attention back to other, less pressing things.

Attack: Your Non-Negotiables

It’s time to write some down. It’s not enough to just think about it for a few minutes. Taking the time to put ink to paper, making it concrete, also makes the ideas concrete in your mind. There’s power to physically writing your non-negotiables down, and it might be interesting to return to them months or years from now to see how well you kept them. You can choose the non-negotiables in your everyday life, in your professional life, your romantic life, or all of the above.

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