Winning Presence for Business Presenters by Dean Hyers

Author:Dean Hyers [Hyers, Dean]
Language: eng
Format: mobi
Published: 2012-10-27T14:00:00+00:00

Embrace them, stick to their constructive uses and sandwich them with appreciation to make them comfortable and safe

Practice turning on the primaries of happy, sad and mad instead of wasting time trying to turn off emotions you don’t want

Trust that feelings will brilliantly manage your body language and open you up to feeling what you say

Feel your words as you speak them and you will create chemistry between you and your audience.

Chapter 5

Compelling Messages

LEWIS: Everything’s a story, kid. Stories are what help us make sense of the world.

Script from the movie

“The Lookout”

The pursuit of ‘magic words’ is one of the most flawed quests since the Holy Grail. Perfect words are like a grand mirage. You perceive them on the horizon, yet as you near them, the magic disappears.

Sometimes, the right words fall out of your mouth like a happy accident, and someone says, “Perfect! Say that again so I can write it down,” and you’re completely unable to repeat your own eloquence. Or, you fantasize the perfect exchange: “I’ll say this, and she’ll say that.” But when the moment arrives, it doesn’t happen at all the way you imagined. You fumble, wishing you could find the right thing to say, but it’s not coming.

Why is it that:

1. Some people always seem to find the power of words when you can’t?

2. We face silver-tongued devils who wield words like swords, and against them we’re defenseless?

3. The words of others charm and entrance, while yours bore?

4. We have access to some really good words? And we recognize the way they string together occasionally makes them ring like poetry. I sometimes use poetic combinations of words without even trying. When it happens, I rather enjoy it. But poetry is not mission-critical. I stake no claims in my language, because I don’t think that words are as important as the intent that drives them.

So you can relax and give up the search, because no magic words exist. No expertly crafted message could ever outperform your average or even clumsy phrases, delivered from the heart with passion and conviction. You can breathe magic into words through a powerful delivery, but there is a more reliable path to eloquence, and it’s found in the spaces between words and the thoughts that inspired them.

Magnificence is less in the words and more in the way they are strung together.

Words exist to share thoughts. Your messages are attempts to articulate what’s in your mind, so someone else can understand your ideas similarly to the way you do.

Messages have content. They mean something, and if your messages say to your audience what you want them to say, you are achieving communication that’s absolutely priceless. To do this, you need to think like an engineer who blueprints and troubleshoots the structural integrity of a communicated thought.

Don’t think so much about the specific words coming out of your mouth. Focus on the structure of your message. Structure is systematic and reliable, and from it meaningful words will flow. If structure is right, you’ll find hundreds of ways to tackle the words—and it will still say the same thing.

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