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Thriving Life by Laura Berg

Thriving Life by Laura Berg

Author:Laura Berg
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Health Communications Inc
Published: 2021-10-19T00:00:00+00:00


How to Get Back in Control

Get a bigger-picture view by finding a moment to be alone in a safe, supportive location, and take some deep breaths to relax. Close your eyes and visualize your current relationship. What do you notice? How are you behaving? Do you like what you see? What would someone else notice about the situation? In the case of Samantha and me, I was shocked when I realized I was going behind her back and complaining to others, something I am still not proud of. I didn’t like this picture of myself, and it was eye-opening to see it.

How much of your time and energy are you spending dealing with or responding to the person or situation? When I was most angry and frustrated with Samantha, I spent up to two hours a day (at least ten hours a week) either dealing with her, complaining about her, or just being angry.

If you don’t like the image of yourself, answer these important questions below. It can be helpful to write your answers on a piece of paper. Getting them out of your head and seeing them written down can help solidify your true feelings surrounding the relationship:

Is it worth it to stay in this situation or relationship? (The answer might be “yes,” especially if it is limited in time.)

What is best for me?

What are my goals or purpose for this relationship or situation, and are they being met?

What else could I do with that time and energy spent on this person?

If I met this person today, would I like him or her?

What am I tolerating that isn’t serving me?

Do I want the friendship to improve or end? What steps will I take to make this happen?



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