The Software Developer’s Career Handbook (for True Epub) by Michael Lopp

Author:Michael Lopp
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: O'Reilly Media, Inc.
Published: 2022-10-25T00:00:00+00:00

Big Fat Toxic Assumptions

This chapter is going to end with someone getting fired, and it makes two large, uncomfortable assumptions.

First, as I explain the serious issues with toxic coworkers, I need to remind you that when it comes to disconnects between two people, there are always two vastly different stories regarding perceived toxicity. If I were to say that Felix had a toxic personality, you would do well to spend some time with Felix and learn about his perception of me. While I might have done as much due diligence as possible to examine every possible personality angle regarding Felix, there would still be essential data to be gathered directly from him.

A declaration of toxicity is a judgment. Sometimes defined by a group, sometimes spearheaded by an influential individual who simply cannot find a healthy way to relate to this person, but regardless, never trust a toxicity label without doing your own research.

Second, this chapter isn’t about fixing this toxic person, but rather your perspective of them. I’m assuming you’re done trying to bridge the gap between you and this person. If you’re a manager, this is hopefully the end result of months of careful negotiating, delicate compromise, and hardcore communication.

There are entire parts of your organization dedicated to providing ideas and skills about how to interact better with anyone on your team, and this chapter assumes you’ve employed all of them.

I’m not going to walk you through strategies for dealing with toxic people, because you’re past that. This person is infecting the team with their toxicity, and you’re vastly underestimating the daily damage this person is doing to the group.

This chapter is here to convince you it’s time to make a change.

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