Quiet by Fearne Cotton

Author:Fearne Cotton [Cotton, Fearne]
Language: eng
Format: mobi
ISBN: 9781409183167
Publisher: Orion Publishing Group
Published: 2018-12-12T16:00:00+00:00

Write a list here of all the small things you like about yourself. A minimum of five! GO!

We must also remember that self-love isn’t driven by ego, it’s about feeling. We can, of course, use little positive mantras or phrases to help us along the way; words that boost us and make us believe we are able to love and be loved, but real self-love doesn’t need a full-on inner dialogue and isn’t driven by us acting entitled due to how bloody brilliant we think we are. It’s a softer love than that and a lot more peaceful.

It’s a state of mind that allows us to act courageously (more on this in Chapter 4) but also without hurting others or closing off from what’s really going on. We may still get hurt or be told difficult things in life but if we like ourselves from within it’ll be that bit easier to get over them and move on to accept love again.

Can we start perhaps by loving a bit of ourselves, if not fully then perhaps incrementally, building up strength and momentum as we go? Do you love your ability to make friends easily? To adapt and move with change? Do you love your aptitude for helping others or perhaps the way you can turn measly leftovers into a great meal? There’ll be something we can all start with. I’ll perhaps start you off with my own moment of self-reflection and scrambling for the good bits. I love the way I am able to get lots done. I have a lot of drive and passion and that, in turn, fuels my energy and makes me incredibly enthusiastic about certain areas of my life. These are moments where I feel fully alive. I used to wish I was a more chilled out person who could drift through situations without this fire and need but I have grown to really love these qualities I have and see them as my magic.

I love that I’m a nurturer. I adore looking after people, cooking up warm meals for them and sending small gifts. I’m thankful I’m naturally like this and feel happy and not arrogant in admitting it. I also love that although I’ve been hurt, pushed aside and at times floored by circumstance, I have always tried again. I may be bruised by experience but I’m bouncy and resilient too. I love that I’m like this.

I guess self-love is a strange and complex alchemy of forgiving ourselves for our past mistakes, honouring our true nature, remembering we are our own worst critic and diminishing the brutal chat we throw at ourselves when the negative Chatter sparks up. Maybe we can’t always tick all of the above boxes but if we are at least working on a couple of them at a time we stand a good chance in getting to that place of full, glorious self-love.

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