Betrayed Not Broken by Wiers Laurel;

Author:Wiers, Laurel;
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing

Ending the Workplace Affair

A fairly common situation is the office affair. Many affairs happen between coworkers. I don’t think it’s out of the question for your partner to switch jobs, but that’s just my opinion, popular or not. If this is nonnegotiable and he has to stay at the same workplace, then you need to have some very clear and specific boundaries around what will happen when he interacts with his former lover.

You and your partner need to be very specific about “allowable” communications. Now, this is going to be very difficult for you. It’s unfortunate that you have to be put in this situation, but that’s the way it is. Unless you’re following your partner to work every day, you’re going to have to trust him. I know . . . right? Trust: the one thing you really can’t do right now. You will have to step out on faith and believe he is going to follow the rules you’ve set up.

You are going to discuss together the new rules and the boundaries he needs to have with his former lover. The two of you can decide what is appropriate. Is only e-mail communication allowed? Phone meetings? What degree and forms of communication do they need in order to work together? Is he allowed to have personal conversations at lunchtime? Is he even allowed to have lunch together at all? Is he allowed to talk at the water cooler? The two of you need to decide what’s appropriate.

Allow me to make a suggestion here. Anything outside the realm of work is off limits. They have already shown you that they cannot draw a strong boundary between working relationships and intimate relationships. The two of you must specifically indicate what that boundary looks like.

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