Beating Anger by Mike Fisher

Author:Mike Fisher [Mike Fisher]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Ebury Publishing
Published: 2013-02-06T00:00:00+00:00

3 The poor me

With this style of anger, we seek to control others by making them feel guilty for not doing enough for us. We are able to steal energy from them when they buy into this guilt trip. When they give us the attention we are looking for, we believe that we have gained power over them through our manipulating and controlling tactics.

Our intention: to gain attention from others by making them feel ashamed because they have neglected and mistreated us in some way.

Our belief: ‘The only way I can have power in the relationship is by making you feel guilty about the way you have treated and behaved towards me.’

Our behaviour: we say things like ‘I try so hard to help you and all I get is a mouthful of abuse’, ‘No one really understands me’, ‘I slave over a hot stove for you and you can’t even get home on time’, ‘You’re so selfish; you never think of what I want!’, ‘Why am I such a failure?’ (Note: whining and moaning are anger through a small hole!)

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