A Sailor's Advice on Life by Unknown

Author:Unknown
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Authors Press
Published: 2021-11-23T22:09:33+00:00

Chapter 3

Room 4

How Do You Obtain Joy?

In the “relationship house” room 4 is where sexual activities occur. Introducing sex to a relationship may or may not improve the relationship. Joyful sexually encounters require consensual and mutual emotional and physical commitments. Because joyful sexual encounters are vital to the longevity of room 4 relationships, I have devoted a chapter to room 4.

I’d like to start out with two questions and answers. Is sex love? No! Is love sex? No! Sex and love are not interchangeable. Sex is not love, but it is normally confused with love. Some people think the act of sexual intercourse automatically establishes the joint five relationship needs accounts which couldn’t be further from the truth. And love is not a prerequisite for sexual intercourse. If that were true, then sexual intercourse between strangers or casual acquaintances would never occur. A healthy sexual relationship is consensually giving of oneself to another person during the act of sexual intercourse. If sex is not consensual, then it is rape or some form of dominance and will not result in a mutually-gratifying experience! If you want to have joy in room four and maintain your self-respect, you should not give of yourself if there are not firmly established relationship needs accounts with the other person. Sex is also the physical act that creates life. I believe you should not share one of life’s most precious gifts and responsibilities, the act that could create a child, if you do not have or desire to maintain a committed relationship.

Going back to the relationship house analogy, for those who did not progress through the house (in other words, consensually transitioned from room 1, 2, 3, and 4), the ability to have a lifelong joyful sexual relationship with their spouse may or may not occur. Instead of being a fulfilling aspect of the marital relationship, that can strengthen a couple’s bond, it could be a source of disappointment and frustration. Understanding the physical differences between men and women can help to relieve some of the disappointments and frustrations that can exist in a physical relationship.

For starters, men and women are typically sexually aroused differently. Men are primarily stimulated by visual attraction, which alone can be enough to cause physical arousal. Most women require more than visual attraction. A woman might be visually attracted to a man, but she is not normally sexually aroused by his appearance alone. Additionally, most women will not respond to physical stimulation if she cannot connect with her emotions. Which gives credence to “men will play at love for sex and women will play at sex for love.” Some women even go to the extent of faking sexual satisfaction in order to fulfill their need for love.

Therefore, men and women should have strong communication skills and, learn about each other’s emotional and physical needs and have an understanding of human anatomy before engaging in sexual relationships. In an unhealthy, polygamous relationship, sex presents potential emotional and/or health risks. I recommend reserving sex for marriage or a long-term monogamous relationship, in other words, room 4 relationships.

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