I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Relationships and Romance

I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Relationships and Romance

Author:Harris, Joshua [Harris, Joshua]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781588601575
Publisher: The Doubleday Religious Publishing Group
Published: 2012-01-10T23:00:00+00:00


3. ESTABLISH CLEAR GUIDELINES.

After you’ve formed your “team,” you need to establish guidelines for your relationships with the opposite sex that are based on the wisdom of God’s Word. Sit down with your mom and dad, or mentor, and ask questions such as “What constitutes a romantic setting? When is going out with someone appropriate, and when would it lead to premature intimacy?” Think through some of the situations that might arise. What do you do when someone feels attracted to you, or vice versa? How much time should you spend on the phone with someone of the opposite sex? How much time should you spend together, even in group settings? There are not hard and fast rules. These are issues of wisdom and will differ based on your age and spiritual maturity.

Setting guidelines like these will allow you to respond with confidence in different situations. For example, I have committed to avoiding situations that could lead to temptation. For me, being alone with a girl in an empty house is one such situation. So I’ve created a “policy” about this issue: I will not go to a girl’s home if no one else is there. If a girl calls me, invites me to come over, and mentions in passing that her parents aren’t home, I don’t have to weigh the situation or pray about it—I already know that I won’t accept the invitation.

Rules by themselves won’t change our hearts, but once we’ve taken on a new attitude, protective guidelines can help keep us on course.



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