Get Out of Your Way!: How to Eliminate Self-Sabotage & Live Your Best Life Now! by Tim Shurr

Author:Tim Shurr [Shurr, Tim]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Shurr Success, Inc.
Published: 2021-03-18T06:00:00+00:00

One of the easiest ways to change the way you experience something is through modifying its submodalities. This is just a fancy term for describing the characteristics that form your inner representations. With Sally, I had her imagine changing the submodalities of the employee she had trouble with. She made him smaller and she raised the pitch of his voice to sound like a mouse. Here are some other characteristics you can modify that will change the way you feel about something.

You can make an image, sound, or feeling: brighter, darker, louder, softer, taller, shorter, closer, farther, softer, harder, rougher, smoother, sweeter, or sourer. Changing a location of something by imagining it either in front or behind you will also change the way it feels. I had Sally “throw” the employee behind her so that he was no longer in her face.

In the next exercise, I’m going to have you think about something from your past that may be holding you back now. It could have been a time when you felt hurt, betrayed, embarrassed, humiliated, or rejected. It could be a memory of something a person said or did. Or perhaps think of something you wanted to have happen, but it didn’t.

During my first experience with this particular exercise, I recalled a memory of a seminar I did seven years earlier. It was my first big seminar and I choked. When I think about this memory now, it seems silly and it wasn’t that big of a deal. But for a long time, it was a huge deal to me, and I almost quit speaking publicly because of it.

I was hired by a brand name company to provide a training seminar for its regional managers in Illinois. I remembered starting the program with my usual jokes and stories that always got people laughing, but on this occasion, everything seemed to bomb. Nobody even smiled. Most just stared down at their notebooks as though they hadn’t slept in weeks. Because of my inexperience with this type of crowd, I panicked and rushed through all my best material hoping something would inspire them.

After what seemed like days, we took a break and I dashed into the hallway to hide. It was then that I realized I had delivered my entire program and we were only half way through the seminar! I still had an hour and a half and no material! This is probably why I now make sure to have twice the material for every seminar I provide. Hire me for an hour and I guarantee I’ll have three hours of material, just in case.

My wife had accompanied me as my assistant at this event. If it weren’t for her “talking me down” in the hallway, I might have snuck out of the building. I was so embarrassed and so frustrated. I suddenly felt completely out of my league. Everyone was cordial, and I did manage to pull off the rest of the seminar and end on a positive note. How that happened is still a mystery.

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