Beyond Tantra: Healing Through Taoist Sacred Sex by Mieke Wik & Stephan Wik
Author:Mieke Wik & Stephan Wik [Wik, Mieke & Wik, Stephan]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Sexual Instruction, Hygiene; Sexual, Sexuality & Gender Studies, Taoism, Findhorn Press, Body; Mind & Spirit, Religious aspects, General, Religion, Self-Help, ISBN-13: 9781844090631, Healing, Hygiene; Taoist, Mysticism, Sex
ISBN: 9781844090631
Publisher: Findhorn Press
Published: 2005-10-01T05:36:25.781000+00:00
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Yoni Massage Exercise
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closed. If she winces or frowns, thatâs a pretty good indication that you need to be a bit gentler. Continue massaging for five minutes or so or until you feel that her legs and thighs are loose and relaxed.
Woman: If your partner does something that is uncomfortable, give positive, directional feedback. The massage is all about generating nice, pleasant sensations. You can help your partner do this by telling him exactly what you need.
STAGE 4: APPROACH YONI AND ASK PERMISSION
Why would a man ask for permission to touch his partner, especially if they are in a long-term, committed relationship? Well, many women have had less-than-respectful experiences of men touching their bodies. This can have taken the form of unwanted or uninvited sexual touching or touch that was too hard or rough. It also happens that a woman wants to be touched but has not been completely clear about exactly what is, and what is not, OK. The man proceeds, does the âwrongâ thing and both the man and the woman end up feeling unhappy and less trusting.
One way to undo the damage that these kinds of experiences have created is for a man to demonstrate, clearly and openly, that he respects the women he is with. Asking for permission is a pretty unequivocal way of doing this. A simple but powerful acknowledgement and invitation from a woman is also, for many men, quite a wonderful experience. Certainly for me, after years of thinking incorrectly that Mieke didnât really like me touching her, it was a revolutionary step. There is power in words, and power in a clear, open and committed âYesâ.
What this exchange does is gives the woman a chance to say âYesâ.
This also gives her the chance to say âcould I have bit more leg massage first, please?â or âI think thatâs enough for this session. Maybe we could wait for the next one to go further. I would like that.â Itâs very important when a woman does say âYesâ that she means it. This exercise is all about building trust at a very deep level both between a man and a woman and inside each one of them as well.
So how do you build trust in a body? As mentioned above, many women have at some time in their life experienced sexual touching in a way that was not relaxed and enjoyable. As a result, what can be called âprotective armourâ has been created in the muscles around their Yonis, which actually de-sensitizes the entire area. When a man approaches Yoni with gentleness and respect he is telling his partnerâs body that âthings are different now, you can relax and allow yourself to feelâ.
Once she starts to relax and trust, he can begin to tease forth Sexual Qi. The idea is not to stimulate a woman strongly and have Sexual Qi blast through but instead to let it build gently. The end result is, amazingly enough, a far stronger
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